Tips for the Table
Dinner Is Served

Before you announce to your guests that "dinner is served," be sure to light the candles and pour ice water into the goblets—but don't pour wine until your guests are seated. Food may be served already portioned on individual dishes or from a large platter, but remember to serve from the left side and clear used plates and utensils from the right. (Of course, an informal meal can be just served family-style by placing big bowls and platters of food on the table for the guests to pass around and help themselves.)

For an informal dinner, you may place the plate or bowl containing the first course (appetizer, salad, or soup) directly on the dinner plate after the guests are seated. Then remove it, leaving the dinner plate until the entree is ready to serve. For a very formal affair, place the appetizer plate on a service plate; then remove both plates and replace with a dinner plate immediately. There should always be a plate in front of each guest.

In addition to great food and atmosphere, memorable entertaining depends on a good mix of people. Always give as much thought to your guest list as you do to your menu. And don't stand on ceremony. Even if you have the seating all planned, you might notice that one guest is getting along especially well with someone new. Sit them together. Be flexible and remember that the more relaxed you are, the more comfortable your guests will be.

One more thing. It’s a good idea to ask your guests before you plan your menu if anyone won’t eat something specific, whether due to a food allergy, for religious reasons, or simply a dislike of a particular food. It would be a shame to learn about these “food issues” at the table, which can often make your guests (and you!) feel uncomfortable.  In addition, asking your invited guests about food preferences/restrictions beforehand will demonstrate how very much you care, and how much you want them to enjoy both the meal and their time visiting with you.