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Although human emotions start out nice and warm (inside)–isn’t it amazing how, if left to run rampant, we can become really hot? Our face can get tomato red when we’re angry or frustrated (or hormonal!)–blotched out in purple-pink patches when we’re scared and/or nervous and deliciously flushed when we’re turned on. Although we often end up feeling internally mugged by our feelings, the truth is that emotions are simply a reflection of the degree to which we choose to surrender to inner and outer triggers. ”He made me so mad,” or “If she doesn’t hurry up I’m going to explode!” or “I can’t believe I just did that–I’m so embarrassed!”
The first point: Feelings, whether negative or positive, don’t make us do anything at all. It’s when we feel helpless in their presence that we relinquish control of what comes next–the continued unfolding of our story–that’s right–we let go of the reins that enable us to steer our life in the direction we want. When we inappropriately anoint our feelings “KING,” it’s like giving away our personal power to random waves on the shore. Feelings, just like waves, are transient–they come and they go. Emotions can be big and dark, and then an “all-of-a-sudden” whimsical inner thought or some silly outer scene can urge us to laugh out loud– (But, don’t get used to having the giggles…) because two minutes later, we can become scared to death and filled with mistrust (and then..) after seeing a gorgeous baby or a delicious puppy or being hugged by the scent of a chubby, garlic-rubbed chicken roasting, the world, once again, feels just fine and seems filled with promise.
Sounds totally exhausting, doesn’t it? Well, that’s how most of us walk around…victims of our own inner oven.
Is it bad that we have this (often overactive) inner generator? No, not necessarily. As humans we’re made to have the capacity to experience enormous internal joy–and because there’s polarity in everything, there’s a flip side.–We also have the exact same capacity to create enough inner heat to feel overwhelming inner distress. As red-blooded people, we’re built to be able to feel the full gamut–but we also get to choose which inherent ability to strengthen. That’s the part we don’t remember–that we have a choice of how hot we will allow our internal oven temperature to get. We forget that, just like what happens in a home when extreme heat is left unattended –and is allowed to be sparked with more raw fuel– the result is fire and, when left to it’s own devices, fire inevitably becomes extremely destructive, potentially obliterating many of the things that are most precious to us.
So how come we fail ourselves when we want to become less volatile–and happier?
Because, we usually create and commit to personal goals when feeling safe, able and inspired–a pretty cool zone (temperature-wise). Then, with the first challenge also comes an upward flick of inner heat, which is when we’re faced with the first pivotal choice: “Will I or won’t I attach an action to the heat that will depict a direction that doesn’t support the preservation of my jewels”–Which are our hopes, dreams and internal vision of being able to grow into our Greatest Self.
The second point: Just like when the thermostat in our home-oven (in our kitchen) gets out of whack and runs too-hot, if we don’t want our creation (our life) to burn, we need to be able to deliberately make adjustments–reducing the temperature as needed– so we are more in control of having a successful outcome. Maybe it’s time to have that oven thermostat checked….
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